Which is more liberating for women: abortion or the right to choose not to have when they don't want preg.?

I’m having a hard time understanding how a woman can think that abortion is more liberating than choosing when to and not to have . Abortion seems to be a heck of a lot of trouble to be considered a form of birth control. First, there is the expense of it, then it's like an operation and you have the whole moral decision- making with people all over telling women what they should or shouldn’t do. Wouldn't it just be easier if women practiced a little more self control in their relationships? Am I suggesting that women shouldn't have the right to have ? NO. What is factual about humans is that men are more ual creatures earlier (18 or so years they hit their ual peak), while women much later. Not everybody falls into this category, of course, but statistically most! It seems to me, wouldn’t it make more sense to teach our young ladies that they are in control. They are the ones who ultimately decide whether they are going to say yes to having or not. It seems more important to teach a girl to take ownership of her body and tell the boys they don't want to have a baby. Seems to me liberation of women starts when women start making the initial decisions rather than subject themselves to all the controversy and dismay the option of abortion subjects them to. I'd rather teach our daughters to take control of their bodies and teach them that and the interest in having is all very natural. However, if a woman decides to have , she is deciding to welcome a baby into her life. Doesn't liberation start when women start taking full responsibility of their bodies, THEIR DECISIONS to have ? Even when birth control doesn't work, and the man leaves her as soon as he hears the news, and the entire upsetting situation that occur as a women discovers she is having an unwanted pregnancy, even if all those terrible situations occur, a women made the first decision to have . We know what we are getting ourselves into, why are we allowing everyone to make us feel like victims. Let's be honest, if you choose the action, you choose the consequence. I’m not suggesting that men be let off the hook, but usually women take on more of the parenting then men. (Again, everyone is different, but let’s give credit where credit is due). It seems to be no matter how women interact with men, women usually end up having to call the shots. We should encourage our young to have more self-respect. Does abortion teach them that?